296. Can We Just Have a Normal Week?

SPEAKER_00: Because girls, who you are outside of being a mom still matters. It is time that we live out the dreams and the desires that God has placed on our hearts, even if we don't know what that is quite yet. But I got you. We're in this together. So grab your drink, meet me on the back porch, and let's do this. SPEAKER_01: So if I am being honest with you, I sat down to record this episode and I really had no idea what I wanted to talk about. I, you know, I don't know if you've ever had one of those weeks where like nothing particularly exciting happens. You're just, you know, doing all of the things and living your life and checking things off your to-do list, and then suddenly the weekend's over and it's time to do everything all over again. So that's kind of where I am. You know, just said a quick life update. We still haven't found Connor yet. Um, and that sucks. And I'm really sad about it, but that is not what this is about. Um other than that, I don't really have any big life updates. Um, I don't have any incredible story or major relevant revelation or huge milestone. Um, I don't really have a lesson that I'm dying to teach you that I learned recently myself. Um, I do have some thoughts that I figured that we could just hang out for a few minutes on the back porch, you know, grab a cup of coffee or a glass of wine, depending on what time you're listening to this. And um sometimes I think that's you know all we need. And uh we don't need, we don't always need another person telling us, you know, how to be better, how to do more, how to, you know, get our lives together. Um sometimes we just need a friend who says, girl, same, me too. So let's chat and and just have a little girlfriend backboards chat today. Um so one thing that kind of I've been thinking about is how like repetitive life can be sometimes. Like we wake up, we get everybody where they need to go, we answer messages, we run errands, we figure out what's for dinner, we try to remember all the things because we're we're responsible for remembering for like everybody else, right? And then we wake up and we do it again and again and again. And like, why does everybody need to eat breakfast every single day? Like, who decided that that was necessary? Like, I feel like we just had dinner and how are we talking about another meal? Like all of a sudden again, like and the laundry. I feel like our washing machine is running constantly, and if it's not running constantly, I have an overloaded pile of laundry that I'm overwhelmed to even try to begin. And I don't understand how we generate so much laundry when I feel like we're constantly washing clothes. And at this point, I feel like I don't know, maybe the laundry basket is multiplying when nobody's looking. I don't know. It just is it's too much. And then don't even get me started on the mental load, the mental load to-do list. Like it's not the things that we actually have, well, it is things we have to do, like ordering lunches and making sure that the clothes are washed so that we have clothes for the week. And, you know, Bruce wears uniforms to school, so making sure that he has the correct uniforms, making sure that Bruce's homework gets done, making sure that he, you know, he's got ADHD. So we've got checklist upon checklist upon checklist so that we know that everything gets done and making sure that he switches out his A-day stuff to his B day stuff and making sure that we have the right days scheduled. And anyway, I just you know, I need to make that appointment. I need to um reorder his prescription. I need to reorder my prescription. I need to make sure that um I, you know, like I can't even think straight right now, like all of the things I need to respond to that text. And um I probably need to be productive with my free time, even though all I want to do is lay on the couch and read my books. Um, and then we finally get a you know, a minute to sit down and I'm trying to read and then I'm falling asleep because I'm tired, or I'm thinking, oh no, I didn't do that, and I need to do that. And why are we like this? Like I'm genuinely asking because I would love to know when we all agree that we have to be productive every single minute. Like sometimes I just want to sit down, sometimes I want to sit my water or my energize and exist without someone else needing me. And I just want to read my book or watch the new season of Tulsa King. Is that too much to ask? unknown: I don't think so. SPEAKER_01: But sometimes I do think so. I don't know. Here's another thing, random thought that I had like, why do we always feel like we always need to have something interesting going on? 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SPEAKER_01: But like, why do we always have to have something interesting going on? I even caught myself like doing this while trying to figure out what to talk about, you know, for the podcast today. I kept thinking, like, what happened this week? What do I have to share? What's something worth talking about? And then I realized that maybe nothing particularly exciting happened, and maybe I just had a normal weekend. Maybe that's okay. I don't know. I think maybe social media can make us feel like everybody has all of these amazing things constantly going on. Someone's traveling, somebody's launching a business, somebody's having a breakthrough, somebody's house looks immaculate. Um, they've somehow made it, made a beautiful dinner on a Tuesday. They have this beautiful tablescape, their house is decorated amazingly for Halloween, and we haven't even pulled out our Halloween decorations yet. And I'm just trying to remember why I walked into the kitchen. I don't know if you can relate to that. And listen, I love seeing what everybody is doing. It's so fun. I love a good trip recap. I love fun family pictures. I love getting to see everybody's experiences. And I'm not saying that we need to stop sharing the exciting stuff because I absolutely love that. It's super fun. But I also think that it's nice to remember that most of life isn't made up of highlight moments. Like next week's podcast, I'm gonna have some highlight moments because my girlfriend and I are going to New York. And you better believe I will have a recap episode of that. But today, today is all about the ordinary days that we live the majority of the time. And the conversations that we have in the car, the random things our kids say, the errands that we run and evenings when we just don't do anything particularly special. Like those are the ordinary days, those are the ordinary moments, those are the 95% of the time life that we live. And maybe we don't have to turn every single experience into like something meaning meaningful, like a meaningful life lesson. But maybe sometimes a Tuesday is just a Tuesday. Maybe a Monday is just a Monday. And I think I'm learning that I'm okay with that. And so instead of like pretending I have this big topic today, let me ask you something. What are you into right now? Let's do a check-in. Like, what are you doing? What are you reading? Like, what book are you reading that you cannot put down? Or a book that you just finished reading, I want to hear about it. What show are you watching that you are completely obsessed with? Like, have you fallen down some like random internet rabbit hole that you absolutely did not intend to spend two hours exploring? Because I love those little things. And I love having something that's just for fun and something that like doesn't need to be productive or meaningful or connected to some bigger goal. And I think sometimes, like in the middle of motherhood and all of the responsibilities that come with being an adult, we forget that like we're allowed to enjoy things simply because we enjoy them and enjoy doing them, and we don't have to monetize every hobby and we don't have to like turn every interest into a new project. Um, and we don't have to like justify every minute that isn't spent doing something for somebody else, right? Like sometimes we can just like what we like. And so I'm curious, what is your current thing? Like, what are you liking just to like? Like something that just brings you joy. And, you know, if we were sitting together on the back porch or sitting together having lunch, like what would you tell be telling me about right now? I want to hear all of the random stuff. Like, did you get a new pet? Or did you see something that was so funny and you just have to get off your chest and tell somebody about it? Like, I want to hear all of those because those little conversations, those are my favorite. Because yes, this is start scared with Christy, but like you're a part of this community, and I want to know what's going on in your life too. So send me a DM on Instagram at Christy Lockhart because I want to know. Like, tell me all of the things, what is going on in your life right now, even if they're mundane, even if they're normal, even if they're boring, because then we can share our boring, normal, ordinary lives together. Because wouldn't that be fun? That like we're not all living these lives with these big huge experiences. All right, girl, that is all I've got for you today. Nothing major, just real life. And maybe that's exactly what we needed today. Like maybe, or you know, maybe that's just what we needed this week. A reminder that we don't have to have exciting news every time someone asks us how we're doing, or, you know, we don't have to turn every experience into a lesson, and we don't have to, you know, be constantly improving ourselves to be worthy of just a little bit of rest and some enjoyment. We're allowed to have ordinary weeks. We're allowed to just rest in the mundane and we're allowed to be a work in progress without like actively working on ourselves every single minute of the day. And we're allowed to show up exactly as we are, even when we don't have anything interesting to tell. Like if you're listening today and your life feels a little repetitive, wash, rinse, repeat, do it again and again and again, and you're just going through the motions. I hope that you give yourself a little bit of grace because you're not doing anything wrong. You're not doing life wrong because just because nothing extraordinary is happening right now. And if you have a fun book, a great show or a random obsession that you think I need to know about, please come and tell me. I love hearing from you. I want to hear from you. Thank you again for spending some minutes, some minutes, some time with me today. And if you enjoyed this little catch up, share this episode with a friend who could use some company of a random 42 year old, crazy just thoughts that are popping in. Just nothing extraordinary, just a little ordinary. All right, girl, until next time, remember I love you. I'm reading for you, and remember if you matter, I will see you next week. Same time, same place.